Model or Scammer?

Well I thought we would put our long distance scammer to rest and I would just carry on doing what I do best! Loving life and being thankful for everything I have, I guess not.

Our Salvatore DeRosa really gets around - and he is still asking for money from other unsuspecting women! Please understand that I do not believe this is a real picture of our scammer, I do think these pics have been borrowed by some unsuspecting individual but nonetheless these are the pics that our fellow is using so that is all we have to work with.

Some regular names he has been going by is sicilianseeker10, sweetsdetal2005 and today he is on Match.com as siciliansal10. He will have a new unsuspecting woman today. Our fellow doesn't stick to one area either, seems to like New Jersey, BC and AB in Canada and the UK.

I must trust that karma will play a role in the life of this/these individual's and before they do too much damage they are stopped.

Please remember never send money for any reason and listen to your intuition, if it feels weird it probably is. If he/she is promising the moon but won't give personal information be wary!

More then Coffee

March 27, 2010
I have now been on 4 "coffee" dates and met a very nice man in the process. Not that they weren't all nice men - just not a connection of two hearts.



I met "T" at a convenient coffee spot and we sat and chatted for about an hour. When "T" offered to go book shopping with me after we had our tea I was impressed, okay so perhaps I should have higher standards to be impressed but I don't and I don't care either! It is really hard to explain because I don't believe that chemistry is immediate but at the same time there was a nice strangeness that is difficult to explain. While we were sitting having coffee I wanted to take his hand and hold it - remember I have just met this fellow and I am not that brazen. Besides how forward is that? When we went book shopping I couldn't help but take a couple of deep breaths as he stood beside me!


April 22, 2010
Update:
Plenty of Fish (online dating site) was very helpful in my meeting with "T" and we have now been seeing each other for 5 weeks. He is a wonderful companion, we have shared long walks, conversations, meals and although I am still nervous when I am around him I look forward to our next meeting. I love this giddy school girl feeling and don't want it to end!

I had my first personal meeting

Now how exciting is that? Well considering it is the first date of any kind with the opposite sex for quite awhile it was pretty darn exciting! We started by sending emails back and forth and a couple hours later we were in a local coffee shop having coffee/tea, there wasn't much time to get nervous, change our minds or back out which worked out well for me. I could easily have put that first meeting on hold indefinitely and that is not my goal!

Turns out G is a very nice man, very tall which is different for me but his height gave me the warm fuzzies. He greeted me with a friendly hug which was nice and then he quickly proceeded to talk up a storm. It made it very easy for me to just listen and relax a little. He had an easy laugh and many stories that made me laugh as well.

A couple of times he would ask a question and before I got to answer or finish my answer he would interrupt with another anecdote or onto another story. I do believe that is how he was dealing with his nervousness and didn't mind the not having to talk. I do realize that it is hard to get to know someone if they are not talking but there is nothing wrong with attentively listening to someone either!

I was surprised at how easy it was for me to blush but I think that was just more of that nervousness. I am glad that the first coffee date was not as scary and believe that I could look forward to the next one with a little more confidence.

Happy Hunting everyone and remember Have Fun out there and be safe!

Last Scam Installment

This will be the last piece of information I post on my mystery man, I believe with the information I have provided that you may be able to recognise him as I do believe most of these scams reuse the same material. I truly hope that none of this stops you from persuing an online experience and that it only adds to your awareness. Above all have fun!

This one is dated February 7, 2010
Here are a few things I wish to do with you at some point in this lifetime:

Be your best friend.
Get caught with you in the rain.
Dance with you in the rain.
Stargaze on a clear night.
Watch the sunset together.
Spend all day with you doing nothing.
Moonlit walks on the beach.
Be more proud of you than I already am at this very moment.
Go on a carriage ride through the park.
Do a crossword together.
Go to brunch.
Have a disagreement (it could/will only make us stronger).
Go for a twilight horseback ride.
Watch a bad movie together.
Spend the rest of my life with you.
Have our picture taken together.
Eat ice cream with you.
Make love to you passionately.
Go to a museum together.
Talk to each other using only body language.
Give you space when you need it.
Accept you totally and completely - flaws and all (I already do).
Discuss current events in a heated debate.
Have you see the error of your ways from aforementioned heated debate and make mad, torrid love to you, in the midst of all that passion.
Carve our names into a tree/table.
Go for a walk at dusk together.
Be one with you.
Send you a singing telegram.
Spend all night thinking of 101 sweet things to do for you.
Hold you and gaze into your eyes and realize how much I love you...and tell you.
Gently run my hand across your cheek and look into your eyes.
Blindfold you and take you somewhere romantic.
Spend my life making you happy.
Spend my life making our family happy.
Feel your heartbeat.
Go roller/ice skating together.
Give you a backrub just because.
ALWAYS being honest with each other.
Go hiking/camping together.
Have our first fight, make up and feel a stronger bond because we very successfully weathered the storm - together.
Marry you.
Laugh at someone together.
Share a plate of spaghetti.
Give you a stuffed animal just because.
Go on a fun family vacation and bring back the kind of memories movies are made of.
Treat you like my Lancelot.
Go on a road trip across America.
Count thunder together during a thunderstorm.
Envelop you in my soul.
Cook your favorite meal/meals.
Know you better than you know yourself.
Go to a Renaissance Fair.
Plant a tree in our yard together.
Look over at you during an office/family party and have you know without me saying a word - that I love you.
Be able to say "I love you" in 89 different ways - in 89 different countries.
Hold you when you're at your saddest and comfort you when you need it the most.
Be the one you come to for that comfort and holding.
Wipe away the days' stresses and issues, with just one hug/kiss.
Grow old with you.

Love Always,

Sal

For everyone out there who is honestly looking for their perfect match I hope you all find your Sal and that he is real! We will resume our regularly scheduled blog and put this to bed.

Online Scam - not all bad!

So yesterday when I posted my scam alert I hope that you know that I do not take back anything I have said in previous posts. Although my mystery man turns out to not be the man of my dreams he indeed helped to wake me up to some realizations of myself that I may not have seen otherwise. I do not believe what he is doing is ethical but for me it was worth it. I will continue to share some of the emails he sent because I believe it is something he will continue to do and perhaps under another name. Just be careful and please, please, please never send money to anyone no matter what! This man never asked me money but he sure knew how to pull at the heart strings.

email dated Jan 31, 2010
Hello babe,

Thanks so much for your message and i really appreciate it . I really had a wonderful sleep and I really wish you were beside me as I was just tossing and turning in bed thinking about you. Thanks so much that you want to send something to me. If you want to mail anything you will have to send it to eastern Europe first before it gets here and it will be sent here through a special package and i should get it in less than 2 weeks. Thanks so much babe and hope to chat with you later. Hope your having a wonderful day

Salvatore

Pleae note here that I never did get an address which perhaps should have been a flag!

This email was sent February 3, 2010
Hello Baby Bear,

What a wonderful beginning to a new year! It began with me finding you, chatting on

Thank you,XXXXXX. What more can a man say to the woman who opened her heart to him, allowing him to feel the warmth of her love across the great distance that separates them? You truly have no idea what I feel for you.

I try to put this feeling into words, but fail miserably. This feeling of being both scared and at peace, of having both butterflies and a sense of calm, is a feeling that I have only dreamed about. As the days continue to pass, my feelings for you continues to grow. I never thought I had the capacity to feel for anybody as much as I do you right now. Yet, my feelings for you continues to mature, growing beyond the realm of my heart. It seems that you have become the fiber of my soul, the very reason for my existence.

I have no other words to describe the way you make me feel. No words, no actions could even come close. I believe that Ronald Regan said it best to Nancy in a letter, telling her only that, "I more than love you". Their love was a strong love, surviving everything, even death. I believe that even after his passing, Nancy felt Ronald's love for her raining down upon her. That is why she has always seemed at peace after the death of such a truly loving husband. That is the way I feel about you.

Forever Yours,

Salvatore xxx

I have recently discovered from another blog site that it is not just girls that are getting scammed, guys be careful out there, apparently there is just as many girls on line looking to be rescued!

On-line dating scam

Two posts in one day, well this just seemed like something that should be out as soon as possible. Firstly I want you to know that I would never diss another person no matter what the circumstances were and in this case I feel guilt free as I am sure this person doesn't really exist so there is no dissing going on. I do feel sorry for the real Salvatore Derosa's out in the world that have no idea of the smarmy behaviour going on in their name!

I started an online communication with Salvatore Derosa (the name he used) on January 28, 2010. I thought I was being very careful, I thought I asked all the right questions and I did my google searches and 411 checks on the computer. There were a few small red flags so I was cautious but really wanted everything to be true. I can be cynical but I do not believe I am a cynic and I really wanted everything this guy was saying to be true!


This is the first email I received after the intial courtesy email

Thanks for your message, I'm astonished at your depth. Very unusual for a woman. What a major attraction. I am glad that you chose to write back to me as you did, as it is not wasted on me. I like it that you are so open, so honest...so real with who you are. That speaks volume to me about you. So I should probably tell you a little more.

I was born and bred in Sicily, Italy moved over here a couple of years back, I have a 10- year old son who is the apple of my eye, Im an Electrical/electronic engineer and work on mobile network synthesis and analysis. I've worked all my life and i think i have all i need as a man but the only thing missing is love.

Im looking for a serious relationship which could possibly lead to marriage,like i said in my profile,i'm looking for an affectionate, sincere and responsible...a caring woman...who would love to have some one to share her life with, do things together like 4x4 in the mountains exploring, campfires and camping out, dinning-out, canoeing and fishing , watch movies at home...listen to music...travel...I look for a woman who would like to be my partner, sweetheart, best friend and my lover all wrapped up in one,be a caring, honest and reliable person...who has feelings for her partner...willing to stand by her man through all the ups and downs in life...has a great personality...with a good sense of humor...loves the great outdoors.I hate liars,arrogant,egomaniac, I dislike people who cheat, that are unfaithful to
their partner's, use drugs, who steal, argue,fight, are noisy etc.i'm looking for a soul mate

Your openess in life is clearly an attraction to me. I am very passionate about things that I believe in and things that I know are true. I have a lot of compassion. I enjoy going out to eat, watching movies, cuddling on the couch to watch a movie or a TV show, or to watch games, and taking walks. My motto in life is "You only live once so live it well." You will impress me with who you are not what you have. The cup is half full, and don't forget - you get what you give. Relationship is like a partnership and opinions are important, it needs to be 50/50. You must be able to laugh at yourself as well as at me. We can either talk for hours, or just sit together without a sound enjoying each other's company. I am looking for some one who is independent yet will still ask for a hand when needed.I want someone who is comfortable in something to the effect of Jeans-t-shirt, sweatshirt as well dress up for the occasion. You must be a casual person with a sense of humor. Must be able to dish it out as well as take it. Having an opinion of your own is also extremely important although you must be able to actually listen to other persons and actually take it in not just in one ear and out the other. Both people have to contribute. It's important to have great conversations but have great chemistry too.
I want to say that anything can happen if a person's mind is set to it. Your ambitions will come to pass. Good things are meant for you. Love and compatibility, and mutual interests are what make any relationship worthy. I would treat my woman with the utmost respect. My woman should never walk behind her man always beside him. I have no problems with public display of affection such as kisses or holding hands. I have so many things to say but I have to get off the system now .
At times I can't find the words to say what I mean in person, so writing it down when I think about it, helps me get my point across. All I know is you are someone I want to know better.

This is almost a page long already. I feel that we have broken the ice and have found some very common grounds between us. I am opening up to you and being honest with you. Hoping you still continue writing, Well...I see I wrote a novel here, but I thought the effort should be worthy of the message that you sent. Have a wonderful day

Salvatore x

P.S
If you have yahoo Messenger you can add me as saldr09 so we can get to chat and know ourselves better. Have a wonderful day and hope to read from you

Now today when I googled saldr09 at his yahoo acct this is what finally popped up after 25 days since my intial google. This comes from another blog site

This post was dated January 23, 2010

I joined friendsreunited dating and a guy called Salvatore Derosa contacted me same jargon, dead wife young son living in the UK for 4 years (perfect english) father in nursing home in sicily. He then tells me he is working in Iraq but things are horrible there he has no money because his account has been hacked and he has lost £25000. He did not ask for money but tells me his son and the nanny are running out of money and that he is worried. I offered to fly the son to my home in Lanzarote and take care of him .. that scuppered him. Then he contacted me again and asked for £20 to be paid into an account in the Ukrain, my suspicions were confirmed and I blocked him, but then I decided tio have a bit of fun and see how far he would take this. Aparently he is now being held by militants and they are demanding money he has no one to help hm and I am heartless for not helping him and he trusted me and loved me and now he was heartbroken by my lack of trust. I took the p155 a bit then told him I was broke and could not pay my mortgage I had no food and electric I didnt know where to turn.. strange how he dissapeared ! I might string him along some more while I check up his IP address but I am not sure how to check it out. his email address is saldr09@live.co.uk at the moment he thinks he has me onside again … oops silly man .. but what a shame I wonder who the man in his photos is he is a real hunk lol

Long distance updates

The last blog I posted I told you I had a Canadian army dude and a U.S army dude emailing me! Funny thing was when they sent me more information about themselves the letters were the same - yes I too couldn't believe it. *

They were both widowed, with a son, retiring soon but the real funny part was they were both looking to retire in Ontario's cottage country. I am sure they will enjoy each other when they meet.

I am now only on two dating sites, there is no point in being on a site if you can't communicate with prospective mates and I am not yet willing to pay for a service that sends me possible matches from other countries or even such a distance away in my own country. I am not willing to leave where I live and although distance can be a category of profile selection it is usually how the crow flies and not a realistic distance for two people to match up.

So other than many long distance encounters which I am now ignoring - after all how many times can you hear the same story! There has not been too many bites, a couple of fellows have emailed me back but those just seem to be the ones that want to chat on the computer, the actually meeting of anyone has not taken place and most guys don't even bother to send an email back.

* It has just come to my attention that this is and so was my first lovely online dater - a scam (gotta love google) - I will be updating on this so others aren't caught in this malicious scam. Never, ever send money please if you have friends dating online please forward them to this blog

PS I have been considering shortening my profile, perhaps I have too much of nothing to say and the guys with the short profiles seem to be doing fine! Could I be going about this all wrong?

Open Mind - Careful Heart

Please, save me - I am really trying to keep an open mind here! Of course I am sure it is not helping that I am trying to power through a lot of frogs to find my prince. I realize that I am not a princess but I can be someones queen!

It certainly amazes me how many people lie on line and I am not sure what that is about. Seems like such a waste of time but then previewing some of the profiles it is evident that no time was wasted! It is interesting (not surprising but interesting) that guys are usually so vague in their profile and yet girls are reading them and trying to read into them and then girls are usually so wordy about who they are and what they want and guys aren't getting past the picture!

I think one day I will have to talk about the different sites and what they offer but for now I am only familiar with 5, yes I signed up for another one. I am seeing which ones work best for me and I am not willing to pay for a site. So far I have aquired two army pen pals one from Canada and one from the U.S. I don't mind too much but it would be nice to connect with someone closer to home and real! After all these years surely my prince isn't off fighting a war in some foreign country! Funny thing is if I had thought of it sooner, I never would have minded an online connection with other people, just not for the purposes of a love relationship!

okay back to checking emails and googling names!

Back on Line

I decided at the beginning of this year that I would face all my fears and put myself out there to experience all that life has to offer. That is where all this nonesense started and if I hadn't experienced a wonderful on line encounter early on I would probably be done with all this nonesense.

Now there are two theories to consider here; firstly that to have one positive encounter perhaps there could be another fellow out there waiting in the wings for me to appear. Of course the other theory and the one I tend to lean more towards is I have had my one positive experience and the fact that I am comparing him to every profile I look at is counter productive to my goals.

So with gusto I have signed up for 4 on-line dating sites, okay as I have said in my profile I am a "get er done" kind of girl and I just want to get this foolishness out of my system as soon as possible. Perhaps there is no encounters on line worthy of my wit and charm but look at all the material I will have for this blog!

*it is interesting to note that when I read my own blogs I note an air of arrogance that I really don't have!

Happy Valentine's Day

Today I thought I would share a special Valentine's treat; a beautiful email I received from my recent online dating guy. (It is edited to protect the innocent and me too!)


My Love (translated)

I'm usually not the kind of person that would write a love letter, but I thought i'd do this for you because you are the most wonderful thing in my life right now. . . I can't eat, sleep, walk, drive, or even work without thinking about you. You are in my thoughts all the time. I'd tell you you're in my heart, but I don't feel like that would be right, because my heart is not mine anymore -- it belongs to you. You are sweet, loving, caring, beautiful and you make me feel like one of the luckiest guys in the world.

I need you to know I am with you through everything, . . . I've given you my heart and I hope that you won't break it. . . Remember when I promised you that I'd never let you down, that i'd never treat you bad, that I would share your joy and pain? I will promise all those things over and over again . . .

Missing you so much honey.

I think it is perfectly evident how a girl could fall for this, even an intelligent synic like myself. If this guy can deliver in person his promises on the computer he is going to make some woman very happy - no that was not a pang of jealously!

Hoping everyone is finding love out there tonight.

We are not in Kansas anymore!

Went out to do some errands today and walked past a shop with the most stunning pair of red high heels, so in honour of Valentine's Day tomorrow I decided I would go in and try them on. Those beauties fit like a glove and they begged me to take them home. What could a girl do? I now own the most amazing shoes to wear tomorrow for my Valentine's Day Dinner.

Yes I have been invited out to have dinner with my mom, her husband and my grandmother! Is that sad? The worst part is no one (single) will see or even care that I am wearing hot, new pumps. I swear next year I too will have a Valentine! I have decided to jump back on the horse and try the on line dating again, and next year I will buy the dress to match the shoes.

After writing I decided to go out on the town and show off those new shoes, I must say my experience with clubbing, dancing and "boy/girl interaction" is very different to what is going on out there now! It was by no means unpleasant, just different and on the scale of interesting was certainly a 9. As for the shoes, good thing they are cute cause they were killing my feet! Just like some guys I have met in my lifetime.

Back so Soon!

Whew, what a ride! I just had the most exciting, intense online relationship, it was so amazing while it lasted ! Do you remember that new love feeling, you have butterflies in your tummy, you can hardly breath, you stop thinking straight. I felt like I could take on the world and no one could crush me. It has been a very long time since I have had that feeling, in fact some of it I am sure I have never felt (after all there is a mature side to me now!) I now know that it is a feeling I miss and I won't wait so long to have it again.

Having never actually spent anytime on line with someone before and then having a 10 day run was euphoric! I met the most wonderful, dreamy, romantic, intelligent, humourous and honest fellow I have ever had the pleasure to meet. Okay I didn't really meet him, we had a long distance only, romance and so of course I don't really know if he was all of that and a "bag of chips". Why would he lie? I didn't lie - as I discovered online romance is actually a great place to pour out your heart, soul and deepest thoughts and feel no shame, remorse or embarrassment. SAY WHAT! BACK UP! What the hell was I thinking - well I was thinking of love, romance, commitment, friendship, adventure and a variety of other unreal internet possibilties.

Lesson learned, do not go overboard crazy with your feelings, keep the interactions light and brief. Do not allow yourself to create an attachment to what you perceive the other individual to be like. It is clear to me that I am lacking experience in the online world and that my relationship skills are far too rusty to take on battle in cyber space. I will cautiously hone my skills and look forward to a better outcome the next time.

Taking a hiatus!

It is hard to believe that it has been only a week since I have been away from this site! I have been quite distracted, in spite of my demanding online criteria it appears I may have met a wonderful guy that did everything right! and without reading my blog!!

This is not to say that I am necessarily finished with this site, I enjoy the topic and wouldn't mind popping in occasionally to add some witty insight of my own. I am fascinated by how many people are looking for a mate and yet put so little effort into something so important! I am guilty. I also believe that if you are not sure what it is your looking for in a partner that it is difficult to ask for who you want. I am guilty.

Best Wishes

On line dating / thrift stores

As I have mentioned in previous posts I have signed on to other dating sites in the past and not found them helpful, useful or even interesting and for what ever reason today it struck me! I react to on-line dating the same as when I am shopping in a thrift store. I'll check out a few pieces but I rarely try anything on and I always leave empty handed - I don't like sifting through all the clothes that are the wrong size, wrong cut and too worn. I am easily discouraged and unable to see the diamond in the rough.

Ice breakers can be useful

So you are perusing the site, a picture catches your eye and you stop to read the bio. Sounds good and so you send along a wink, nudge or some fake gift icon! So what am I suppose to do with that? I know that if I don't respond you move on but I don't want to waste my visit with a wink or fake gift. I want to know what you have to say, start a conversation or ask me some questions.

I got a post from a fellow the other day 3 lines long and the only thing on my screen was (hugs), (kiss), (hugs), (kiss) you get the picture. He called it flirting, I called it a waste of my time and frankly his as well because that went into the proverbial cyber trashcan!

Ask an intelligent question or use some kind of icebreaker that requires more than a yes or no answer. Assuming of course that you are looking for an intelligent person to respond, if not then perhaps the flirting will work for you.

Now I must go check my email ...

Stuck on the picture

I was searching around today on my online dating site and once again shaking my head at some of the pictures that I passed by.

It surprises me that people post pictures of themselves so far in the distance that I can't even tell if it is a man or a woman! How about the pictures taken with that really shitty web cam you own that distorts the face so much that it looks like something from a fun mirror at the circus. The head shot in shadows is also a good one and the side profile, what are you hiding? Have a friend snap up some relaxed photos of you, you do have friends right?

Today I spotted a picture that some fellow took with his mom and dad (I think that's who they were). Although I said earlier to post solo pics this one may be the exception! It may at least appear that he has a good relationship with his family and ergo at least the crappy baggage he will carry doesn't revolve around his growing up years. How's that for a huge leap?

Pictures I do like - full frontal face shots, show me the eyes and the smile. I am drawn by the smile and the eyes will tell me if he smiles alot or if this was a one time thing. There is nothing wrong with a relaxed full body shot as long as I can see the face.

Smile and say cheese!

What's in a story?

I know first hand how hard it is to write your story and not sound corny, needy or stupid. I have sat in front of this blank computer screen with nothing on my mind only to jot down some dumb dribble that I am horrified to read later. No wonder Bubba looked me up!

Having said that something is better than nothing - this is your third sales pitch. For you fishing boys think of your name as the rod going in the water (no sexual connotations intended), your picture was the hook and your story will reel them in.

This does not mean go all crazy and tell your lifes story, neither of us has that kind of time. Relate the story to who you are, what you believe in, maybe even your ambitions. For me I want to hear what makes you happy. I am a glass 1/2 full kind of girl and want the same from the people I meet.

Think in terms of what kind of person you are hoping to meet. what is important to you? Are you career focused and wanting to meet a strong, independant person? It is okay to put it out there - you are wasting my time too, if I am not what you want in a date. Look back at all the previous dates or encounters you have had what did you like what didn't you like. (Do not share your past dates and encounters in this venue)

just an aside off this topic - don't put your facebook page, twitter or other personality page out there for all to see if you are not congruent to your story. By this I mean don't tell me you are loving, considerate, thoughtful person in your story and on your (facebook) page you are dissing your fellow employees and telling everyone how your job is crap.

A picture says a thousand words ...

sometimes the only thing your picture says is your an idiot! Or better yet you are looking to match up with another idiot!! So remember these views are mine and may not be what every girl is thinking when she looks through those profile pictures.

When you took the picture of yourself with the girl what am I suppose to think? Is this your old girlfriend, wife or .... and the picture of you with the young girl - daughter or are you into young girls? How about a stand alone picture so the eye is not distracted by what ifs.

Love the pictures of bodies, the head has been cut off but what a great six pack! I am sure that body could go a few laps around the bedroom. Sorry not responding, I am afraid that your personal image is so important that you have neglected your charm and personality. I do believe that taking care of yourself is important and even says something about your character and I don't have to see a half naked body to get that.

And my favourite pics are from you boys posting pictures of your cars, boats, bikes and other toys what are you asking for or what message are you trying to send. My interpretations start at you are so ugly that the boat is a bribe or compromise. Are you so desperate that you would date a girl who shallowly chose you for your 69 T-bird - by the way it is the same girl that will get custody of your prize possesion when she dumps your sorry ass! Now perhaps you don't really own a boat, fancy car or bike and what the picture means is show me yours and we will see where things go from there!

What's in a name?

When choosing a name for an online dating profile, remember this is the first marketing tool we are using to sell ourselves. So guys when you choose a name like Bubba or Cooter you may see the humor in such a name but I am seeing a toothless, beergut that doesn't know his ABC's. Sorry Bubba and Cooter! Please don't name yourselves after famous people, just because someone said once that you look like the person - take it from the source they were drunk!

I know it is hard to sum ourselves up in a name and then when you do someone is already using it, that's when those numbers come in handy "lonely61389927483". I am kidding!

Here is a great example to a bad name "BC Babe", it is my name and although I am in BC - good, I passed "babe" 20 years ago. I have noticed that most guys use their real names and I do appreciate that, it does take the nasty visuals out of my mind.



*naturally all the opinions in my blog are mine so please consider the source when reading

...and so it begins, a brief introduction

First ever blog! I know very little about blogs but what a great place to scribe all those witty things I have been thinking and no one to share them with. That is not a "poor me" statement, just a fact that pertains to my subject!

Firstly why Sleepless in Salina? Well Sleepless in Seattle was already taken and that's a movie that must have rocked online dating to its feet. Sleepless no, not really - Salina, not from there either, but I would love to see Italy and how romantic is that? Okay truthfully romance has very little to do with it; country, architecture and wine - lots of wine!

This blog is about my experiences with online dating, my perspectives and perhaps why we are still online dating - instead of actually hooking up with someone I mean.

I am a 50 year old, never married, grandmother! I have not been in a relationship for over 15 years and it has been much longer since I dated ... oh how pathetic does that sound? Meeting people has changed some in the decades since I was "playing the field" and I found myself checking out the online dating sites. I first signed up 10 years ago, before I knew how to post a picture or even to find my way back to the site I had signed on for. I am not sure how many sites I signed on for in the past 10 years but upwards of 8 or more, most of which I no longer remember and none which send me emails reminding me that my one true love has looked me up.

I am not a cynic of on-line dating, in fact quite the opposite. I do know that on line dating can work and you can meet that special someone that "rocks your boat". After all my best friends', cousins', neighbor met the man of her dreams and they are now happily married!

I have so much more to say and I will save it for another post.